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05/27/2014
Dr. Laura,
I used to be the bread winner; I also used to like wearing the pants in the family. My attitude changed as I got older. I don't want to wear the pants in the family now.
I like my husband making the money while I can make sure my kids are loved and protected at home. My job is harder than his is. I can say this because I used to do the job he's doing now which is teaching. There's no way I could teach and raise my three children. Anyone who thinks they can do that without their children suffering are either superhuman or they are lying to themselves. He likes being the breadwinner.
My life is way more liberated now as a wife and mother than it ever was as a career wife. Some men can't find jobs, or it just so happens that their wives get paid more than they do. But there are a lot of men out there who need to square their shoulders and lean into their responsibilities as men. None of my working mom/wife/main-breadwinner friends work harder than I do; neither do they have it as good as I do. I wouldn't trade my position with theirs. I'd live in a one room studio with my husband and three kids before I'd do that. It would be small, but we'd all be safe and happy.
Stacie
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