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11/12/2018
Dear Dr. Laura:
My husband and I have been married for 32 years. I chose wisely, but I didn't always treat kindly, and we almost didn't make it. When our three children were teens, we started to have differences in parenting styles and instead of being unified, we were divided. We fought in front of the kids and I treated my husband with hostility and disrespect. He left and had an affair. We were separated for nine months. My friends told me to "leave the bastard," but I saw what our separation was doing to our children. Not having their father in the house was worse than our arguing. I still loved this man and realized that divorce would be the death of the beautiful family we had created. So, I decided that even if it took five years of work to save my marriage, it was worth it in the long run.
It took almost five years. When I changed, he changed. The problem wasn't ALL me, but I knew that divorce was only going to create a lifetime of problems for all of us and that was going to be painful forever. That was ten years ago, and now, there isn't a day that we don't look at one another and are happy we worked it out. Our love is deeper and stronger than ever.
Marnie
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