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02/28/2017
Dr. Laura:
Thank you for always telling parents to think of their children first when they divorce. I am a child of divorce. I lived with my mom and had no relationship with my dad. She dated, because she wanted a "father figure" for me, but my first memories were of her shacking up with a guy, then them fighting, and the next thing I knew, we were moving into an apartment, leaving behind my dog, who was the only constant in my life. It was great for a few years, because I had my mom to myself. But her friends told her she shouldn't be alone and she needed someone in order to be happy. She started dating again, and I got dragged around to different places.
Then she met my stepdad and shacked up with him for five years. I got shuffled from our apartment to his house (which was 30 minutes away) five nights a week. All I looked forward to were the nights we were in our own apartment, which meant my own bed and belongings, and a chance to talk to my own friends. They married when I was 14, and then life got a little easier.
As a teenager, I listened to you on the radio, and because of you, I learned about meeting a good man and choosing wisely, as well as treating kindly. I'm now a stay-at-home mom to an 18 month old and one due in two weeks. I make sure to be my husband's girlfriend (and he talks about me as his girlfriend, which causes some weird glances when people don't realize he's talking about ME, his wife!). I love every minute of my life, and my marriage will be strong, will last, and our children will not have to go through what I went through.
Please continue to hammer parents and fight for us kids, because I can say that I totally understand what it is like to be the child and how unfair it is to be dragged around all over in order for their parents to be "happy."
Harolyn
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