In 45 years of marriage, we've had a lot of ups and downs. I read Donald O'Connor's answer to the question, "How does a Hollywood marriage survive all these years? He was married around 45 years, said, "I always decide to stay for just two more weeks." I have found in 45 years of marriage, day-to-day life problems usually work out in about two weeks, but if the issue goes longer than that, you might need help. When you are angry and discouraged, two more weeks feels more doable than forever. It gives you time to think, to ponder life with or without your mate, and to not feel trapped. You really can leave, but you've given yourself the freedom of choice without taking the action. And I always tell myself to remember the vows we took, and seriously think what they mean - not meant - as the vows are a daily living reminder.
But sometimes I could just smack the heck out of him!!
Joan
