I can't tell you how important your advice to leave the kids out of testifying in court against their mom was helpful to me as I navigated a difficult divorce. So many times, I was faced with dilemmas regarding the behavior in my ex-husband's household going on in the presence of my four kids, but I decided to keep my mouth shut about any of it around my children. They loved their dad, and I wasn't about to rob my kids of a relationship with him. I recall your saying something to the effect that you must show your children you love them more than you dislike their father. If you proceed in any other way, you are turning yourself against your kids.
That point stayed in my head, so I showed nothing but amicability toward my ex around the kids even when I didn't want to, and said nothing more than pleasant things about their dad to my children. Thank you for helping me realize that a mature and healthy attitude would help save my relationship with my kids.
They're now all young adults, and we have strong bonds that have stayed intact, even though we brought turmoil into their lives. Your words and advice have incredible power, even though some of us (like me) have never called you directly.
Violet
