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07/30/2018
I was a snowflake because at 23 years old, I was still living at home. I wasn't lazy or unmotivated, but I had almost no self-confidence, because of how my dad treated me when I was very small. I was made to feel like I couldn't do anything right. I got excellent grades in school but would freeze when it came to hands-on learning, which is why it took me so long to establish a career.
My mom had no trouble with me living at home, but my step-dad did. He threw me out in a roundabout way. He gave me the cold shoulder, spoke to me only when he would tell me to do chores, and tried to pit my brother and me against each other. The tension was thick, so when I couldn't stand it anymore, I got an apartment 15 minutes from home. Several years later, he confessed to me that he threw me out by making it hard for me to live there.
I struggled at my new life at first, but I got through that. I worked two jobs to make ends meet, and after two years, went back to school to finish my degree. My parents didn't pay a penny. I did it myself. Three years after moving out, I took a huge leap and moved to another city, where I created a life and a family for myself. I got my nursing license and have been a hospice nurse now for 14 years. It's not a job. It's a mission.
So, it IS possible to "un-snowflake" - just don't melt from the heat, freeze up, or become black ice, which can be destructive to those around you.
Your fan,
Laurie
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