Letters From Listeners

Dear Dr. Laura,

I want to share an experience I had thanks to your program. Back in April, my husband and I got into a little tiff. During this discussion, he mentioned that he feels lonely because I for the most part just leave him alone. He said I'm very nice and sweet, but that I never depend on him or challenge him. He said that he needed to feel needed and that I wasn't allowing him that.

I took what he said to heart and thought about it very carefully as I love my husband so deeply. I began reflecting. I realized after listening to you that I believed I was unlovable, hence why I didn't want to "bother" my husband. I went home and told my husband that I would be a better wife, spend more quality time with him and plan fun things for us to do.

We have been much happier. I was so afraid of being a bother, and even more afraid of being like my mother was to my dad, that I had largely neglected my husband. I realized that my husband is not my mother and that I am in fact loveable. My mom is the one who missed out on spending time with me because I am actually a lovable, "badass girly girl" like my surrogate mom, Dr. Laura. 

I hope you know that even though some of us loyal listeners never call in, that you help us every day in ways you can probably never fathom. You haven't just saved one starfish, Dr. Laura; I think you've got about a million out there in the big blue ocean.

With Love, 


Mary