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No More to Being the Breadwinner
05/21/2014

I believe when the woman is the primary bread-winner, it takes the "wind out of the sails" of the male partner. I was always the bread-winner, and my husband told me I couldn't quit.  I wanted to be a homemaker, but we "could not afford it." So that was that.
 
I just retired last week after 35+ years of working; I am tired, maybe a little resentful, but definitely I quit at the time when I said to myself, NO MORE! I don't care if we become poverty stricken! My husband is still working at a measly $10/hr job, and since "we needed the money" these last years, I was forced to choose a poor retirement plan at the job. However, I don't care anymore if my retirement pension is only 50% of my usual pay. To me, as long as the husband keeps working, it will suffice. I also saved money in a 401K to fall back on. Now I am happy because I am RETIRED! The husband never had the gumption to do better.
 
Isabel
Tags: Finances, Job, Marriage, Personal Responsibility, Values
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