Dear Dr. Laura.
I have a connective tissue disorder Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome Type 3 which basically means I'm in severe pain most of the time, my joints can dislocate or sublux from simple movement, and when I get infections they come on fast and furious.
Dr. Laura I chose WELL! My husband Paul is not only the love of my life, my best friend, a kind man, a funny man, but he is also the best father I could have ever asked for our two girls. "In sickness and in health" is a very powerful vow to take and like our other vows, he takes it seriously. I can't explain how lucky I am to have a man who has worked 2 jobs to support us while taking care of our daughters when I couldn't, who waits out in the cold for the school bus because he knows the cold air affects my joints, who brings me my medications in the morning because he knows how painful mornings are before medication, who takes our girls to the doctor when sick, who cleans the house the best he can because I physically can't. This wonderful man tells me I sell myself short when I thank him for doing things and how much I appreciate him and how I wish I could do more. There are days I have cried in pain and he just says "Don't worry, Hon, I'll take care of the girls so you can try and rest". There are days I cannot go swimming or to the park with my family but our girls still go because they have "Dad"!
Don't get me wrong I'm still Mom and I do everything I possibly can for my girls and for my husband! It may not be fancy but he comes home to hot food after a 12 hour shift, I offer the big TV so he can watch a particular program he likes after the girls are asleep, I never turn down sex because well first because I'm not stupid, but second he doesn't ask for anything material. With my being on disability we cannot afford the help we need for cleaning or for the personal care I need, so we do our best to make it through each day together. There are many days he needs to be Mom and Dad and that why I donated Mother's Day to him this year. He deserves 2 days instead of 1! He doesn't complain, he doesn't mope, he just loves us with every inch of himself.
Women, think long and hard before choosing because it takes a special kind of man to take care of a family!
Laurie
