My husband and I have been married 10 years. We have been through hell and back. He has cheated and it was when I was the worst wife/mother. Recently, I let myself go, and in turn let my marriage and my house fall apart, and he ran into the arms of another woman. I am hurt by his choices, but I also now understand how my actions and even my words made him feel like less of a man. Not that it makes it okay, but his complaints were understandable. I was not attentive. I was always negative. I was just not happy; therefore, he felt he had no purpose in our marriage, but to bring home the bacon.
A friend gave me your book, "
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and so much of what the men said in the book I have heard my husband say so many times! In fact I laugh and share with him what I have read and he nods his head in agreement.
While we have a lot to figure out and work through together, there is also a lot I need to work on myself to become the wife I always wanted to be in the first place. I always thought "if he gave me what I want I would be the perfect wife." But now I am realizing to be treated the way I want from him, I have to give that exact same thing to him.
Jessica
