Earlier this month, I took a call that I thought was a perfect example of how "moral nearsightedness" is overcoming American society.This twenty-something young woman was pregnant out-of-wedlock, "shacking up" with her alleged fiance (they are living with his father), and the fiance doesn't have enough income to support a wife and child.But
that's not why she called!!
In fact, when I pointed out the irresponsibility and immaturity of conceiving out of wedlock with a guy incapable of supporting a family, I got back:
"Well, that's not my question!"
(And, by the way, she didn't want to have a wedding until after the baby was born and she got her figure back in order to wear a white gown).Her question actually related to her mother. Apparently, her mommy came to visit and "got it on" with the fiance's dad....
all night
. There were other children (of other family members) in the home when this was happening.That's as far as she got when I said:
"It's genetic."
She responded with:
"What?"
I repeated and expanded:
"It's genetic...having no moral foundation for decisions. Like mother, like daughter."
Now that may sound harsh to you, but truth often is, and there was nothing I could do to change anything about this situation. She was already "shacking up" and pregnant; her mother already had humped the maybe future father-in-law. Her question was going to be about confronting her mom about this outrageous behavior. I couldn't bear to hear her even go there, considering she was the pot and the kettle all by herself.It's a shame both of our eyes point only outwards. It would be a far, far better thing if one of them turned inwards.
