I was just listening to a woman who called in who does not enjoy sex. She blamed it on a date rape at 15. You were asking her about her thoughts leading up to sex. My mind went to my moment of 'not enjoying sex'.
I have been married for 31 years. I am blessed with a wonderful husband, 4 children and a very happy marriage. I don't enjoy sex either, but I do what I can to hide that fact from my husband so I can make him happy. I know he needs it. I was molested when I was 5 by 3 teenage neighbors, and again by a much older cousin when I was 6. Over 50 years later, when I get intimate with my husband and he touches me in certain places, I still go back to those boys being on top of me! Remembering what they said and what they did. I can't get it out of my mind. I don't know why, I have seen therapist over the years, especially before I got married. I guess it has never been resolved, but I hide that disgusting feeling to be a great wife. I did not have sex with my husband before marriage, and he did know what happened to me as a child. My children are all productive, happy adults. My husband is happy, so somewhere, I did something right.
I love your show, I quote you often and cannot imagine a world without your wisdom. Thank you for being there for us, to get a daily dose what is right.
D.
