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04/14/2015
I am 69. My daughter is 43. My grand-daughter is 9. I have been reflecting on my daughter's lifelong problems with self-image. I passed on your advice to her...
Dear Daughter,
When you were 10, you asked me if you were beautiful, I said, "Of course." When you were 12, you were dissatisfied with your "big hair." My friend took you to the mall to have your hair thinned. Then you were happy. When you were in your 20's, you went on a "water diet" because you didn't like what you saw in the mirror. A psychologist helped you change your thinking. Also in your 20's you wanted to have a tattoo like movie stars. I asked you not to defile your beautiful body. You didn't. In your 30's, you wanted Botox injections for your lips to look like Angelina Jolie. I didn't think you should, but kept my thoughts to myself when you did. I wondered why you couldn't see the beautiful woman in the mirror. As I reflect on your struggles with self-image, I wonder how you will answer your daughter when she asks, "Mommy, am I beautiful?" May I suggest, "More than some, but less than others."
Love,
Dad
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