Dr. Laura:
I've been happily married for almost 29 years. Our marriage was never on the brink of divorce, but there were always small daily issues that kept us from having the marriage I dreamed about. I always listened to you on the radio, and loved your advice, so I decided to read "
The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage." Wow - what a transformation it made on my marriage.
I stopped looking at what my husband was doing that annoyed me and started really looking at what I needed to do to improve my marriage. I didn't see major changes right away, but I kept hearing you say to stay with it. I stopped bitching, complaining and punishing my husband for golfing or spending time with someone other than me. In time, my husband started noticing the changes and liked them. We started being a team, sharing and discussing important topics rather than arguing about them.
It's kind of a running joke that my husband goes around the office telling everyone how great it is to be married and how much he loves me. People at his office wonder what I'm doing! I'm not a really good cook, the house isn't perfect, and I'm not the prettiest girl in the room, but my husband knows I love him because I show love and affection daily. I have a great man and I know there is a line of women who would love to have him and the life he so generously provides. We are more in love today than the day we got married.
Thank you for writing a book that helped me change myself and transform our marriage.
With gratitude,
Antoinette
