Hi, Dr Laura,
I've been privileged to listen to you for more than 25 years. You saved me many times. You saved my marriage, helped with the kids, helped when the five kids became teens which lasted almost 20 years ongoing, and helped in the professional world. Now I hand out Dr Laura wisdom to my adult kids and their spouses, my husband, and my co-workers. Next to the Bible, you are a great reference for mankind.
For some reason your question whether or not one should keep secrets from their spouse touched me. I've been married for 42 years. We know each other well. Before meeting my husband, I was a wild hippie type living close to San Francisco. We dated for two years and married. He is a real person with goals, priorities, and values. I knew he was a keeper and he feels the same about me. We never in all our years of marriage discussed prior relationships. Not sure if this qualifies as a secret, but we never discussed or compared old boyfriends/girlfriends with one another, ever. I have also never told him of the abortion I had at an early age. We lived our lives from our dating years forward and that has been our lives and our history together. It is a good life we have together. So, yes, I think there are some things in a marriage that don't need to be discussed.
Thank you for continuing your work. It is so needed in our world.
J.
