Dr. Laura:
I've always had a wonderful relationship with my husband. Recently he's had to work overtime a lot, doing 12 hour workdays for more than a week. We've been so busy and he's been working so much that I've started to feel underappreciated and even ignored by him. In my true "womanly" fashion, I grew cranky and frustrated with him, giving him short "pissy" answers to anything he asked. I was getting mad at him for not paying attention to me.
I realized that I was fed up, cranky, and taking it out on him. So I took a day to "release" myself from my "to do" list, and went to the gym, got a pedicure, and came home. I continued my pampering by turning on your show and giving myself a facial. I heard you talk to a woman about how she just needed to be sweet to her husband and do something to make him happy that he was married to her. I've heard you say this a million times, but for some reason that day, it really "clicked" with me.
Having had a relaxing day, I decided it would be nice for me to give that to my husband. When he got home from work, I filled a basin with hot water and essential oils and soaked his feet. I massaged them with oil and lotion, and I could see the stress of the day melting away into the couch! I made dinner, and then put him to bed early so he could get some much-needed rest. Right before I tucked him in, he turned to me, hugged me and said "Honey, no one has ever made me feel as special as you did today. I love you so much!" My eyes filled with tears of happiness. Thanks to you, I will certainly be doing more "sweet things" for him more often. You've helped guide me towards a happier marriage!
Lori
