Dear Dr. Laura,
I've been listening to you since 1996 when I was 15 in the Bay Area on summer vacations with my grandmother. I partly attribute my outlook on my education and getting THREE full music scholarships to different universities because I didn't focus on dating or stupidity in high school. Thanks to you, by the way!!
My husband and I have been married for 10 years. My husband is AMAZING!!! I knew he had a mild form of epilepsy when we married after graduating college. I knew, going into our marriage, it would be a different life if he had a seizure and couldn't drive for weeks or months. I was willing to marry him anyway, and I'm glad I did.
Three years into our marriage, he had a new kind of seizure and he had to undergo an emergency brain surgery to remove a cyst that was putting pressure on his brain. Since then, he has dealt with a more drastic form of epilepsy that, at one point, caused him to have a seizure that broke 4 vertebrae in his back. Just from seizing, not from falling!
My husband has never felt sorry for himself - never given in to depression that can sometimes come because of the chemical imbalances in his brain. It bothers him he can't work like a "normal" man and I have to be the breadwinner. But he is a MAN in every sense of the word. In August 2013, he had two more brain surgeries in hopes of eliminating his epilepsy completely. So far, that hasn't been successful, but, again, he has pushed through with a great attitude and a smile on his oh-so-handsome face. We would love to have children, but we realize they aren't for us. It would not be fair to a child to come into our lives when we can't guarantee an at-home parent.
We love each other and our two "dog"ters, and sometimes live on an incredibly tight budget. We are friends, lovers, and, most importantly, the single most significant person in each other's lives. With the form of epilepsy he has now, I would choose to marry him again. Through everything medically I've faced with him, I would never trade my marriage with him for any other stud on earth. Thank you, Dr. Laura, for your advice and helping me be the best WOMAN I can be for my MAN.
Warm regards,
Leslie
P.S. - When you recently made a lady sing "God Bless the USA," telling her the power of music in positive thinking, I was listening in the shower and almost slipped and broke my neck due to my jumping for joy! MUSIC IS LIFE!
