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07/15/2015
I am a divorced mother of two remarkable young men. Their father and I divorced 15 years ago because of his drug use and infidelity. I stumbled upon your show while the ink was still wet on my divorce papers and have been an avid listener since then.
During the first time I heard your program, you had a caller who was divorced with children and had remarried. I listened as she described the drama of her life with new husband, old husband, and all the other players. I knew I didn't want that for my boys. I decided then and there I would TOTALLY commit myself to helping them to grow into strong independent men.
This weekend, my older son graduated from high school with honors and is off to serve our country in the US Navy. My younger son is 16, an honor student, and has already been offered admission into 3 colleges. I am very proud of the men they are becoming. I owe much of that to the advice you have given over the years. I have been pegged an overly strict mom but when I look at the results, I don't think I would change much.
Over the years well-meaning friends have tried to set me up on dates saying I needed to take care of myself or telling me it is not good for me to put everything into my kids. My boys have not been subject to a parade of men auditioning to be the next "daddy". They have never gotten attached to someone only to have them leave with no further contact.
I wrote all of this to say to any "new" divorced moms devote your time to your kids. The rewards will be greater than looking back over a trail of drama and broken relationships. Your kids will be strong, confident and secure in the fact that they are loved and worthy of being someone's number one.
Thank you Dr. Laura for helping a young, inexperienced 20 something become the mother of some amazing young men. It has been a WONDERFUL ride!
Toni
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