Dr. Laura:
I recently heard the men who told you about carrying their wives over the threshold. My husband did just that in 1974 when we were married. He's now struggling with the decision of starting his own business at 64 years old or remaining in his present job which is quite stressful. I fear for his mental and physical health, so when I heard that segment of your program, I wrote my husband the following letter:
When we married, you carried me over the threshold. You said "I've got you, Sandy. From here on out, I will protect you. I'm there for you, we're in this together, and I have your back." I began to notice that when I got up from the table, you covered my food or tea to keep it warm. You lock the door behind you when you leave, to keep me safe. You walk on the street side of the sidewalk to protect me. You turn off the TV or stop reading when I talk. You always give me your undivided attention, and such heartfelt advice when I ask for it. You have all the time in the world for me, even on your busiest days. You're there when my car breaks down, when I bring home a stray, when the washing machine overflows or I leave a burner on.
I know you are struggling with this decision because you don't want to fail me or stop having my back like you have for almost 45 years. I love you for that, my love, and respect your hesitation. Please know that I have your back too! We can do this together. Thank you for being all that you are.
Your loving wife, Sandy
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