My husband and I have been together 30 years. Before I started listening to you our relationship was a roller coaster ride, held together by an intense spiritual connection between 2 hard-headed and dueling egos. You have changed my attitude. Why didn't I know it could be this easy??? My changes were enough to change his attitude and our marriage; now we are spectacular. I had been the breadwinner and the homemaker, and had to be in control. Then after 2 hip replacement surgeries, I was stunned to realize how much support he gave to me. He was THERE for me, did everything, and even swam through shark-infested waters. I am recovered now and our marriage is transformed.
He left an "I Love You" note for me one morning somewhere I would see it. Sigh!! I turned it over and wrote my own "I Love You" note for him and left it where he would find it. In the years since, we have never missed a day of passing that note back and forth. One morning I found it in my make-up bag. Another time he left it in my pack of smokes even though he wanted me to quit! One night, I found "I Love You" carved on the surface of the ice cream he had just bought me. Sometimes a single rose in a beautiful vase accompanies the note. You get the picture.
By the way, he now also has my dinner ready when I get home from work, does all the housework and laundry, takes care of my car, takes care of the yard, works out, practices tai chi and works at his leisure on hair salon clients he has had for over 50 years.
You hear this all the time: Dr. Laura, you are gifted. Your gift has made our gift of "us" possible and saved many years of trying in all the wrong ways, so thank you Dr. Laura.
Dianne
