What makes my spouse better than any fantasy are numerous. The history we have shared for 57 years, along with the commitment, love and respect, and all the memories of a lifetime together can never be compared to a fantasy.
My husband lets me be "me". We have shared and joked about different fantasies for most of those years; but we both knew if we acted on them, they would no longer be fantasies and would be a threat to the kindness, caring, sharing, love and stability we had for a lifetime. When I look at my husband, I see the love in his thoughts, actions and eyes. I know that he loves me with all his heart. Acting out a fantasy would not have the blessings that come from a relationship that took years to nurture and build. And NO fantasy could ever compare to the good feelings I get from loving my husband so much and feeling even more loved and blessed in return.
My husband was my biggest fantasy when I was 17 and today he is still my strongest fantasy and the love of my life. A fantasy that would last one day, one night, or even a few years could never be worth the cost. Yes, a loyal, loving spouse is the greatest fantasy there is!!!!!! That will never be found flitting from bed to bed.
Fran