By Jeff Forte90MinuteMarriageMiracle.com
Many couples who reach out to me complain bitterly about a
lack of intimacy in their marriages.
Unfortunately, this is often mistaken for communication challenges by traditional couple's counselors and remains unresolved. This is why so many people seek my guidance after failed couples counseling.
In my opinion, lack of intimacy is the #1 cause of divorce.
The Intimacy that I'm referring to is far more than sexual ...
Real intimacy is also about feelings of closeness, togetherness, warmth, affection and deep connection which will all lead to higher levels of sexual passion.
To what degree do you have that in your marriage?
People often rationalize that they've been together too long, or they don't need that in their lives anymore.... and that the sparks of chemistry just kind of die over time.
That's nonsense! We get what we are willing to settle for. We get the intimacy that we are willing or not willing to create with our partners.
We get to initiate; closeness, togetherness, warmth, affection, and deep connection... or sit back and wait for our partner to do that.
What are you willing to do to restore and elevate intimacy in your marriage?
The problem is not your marriage, the real problem is what you learned and didn't learn about sustaining love and intimacy long-term.
In my opinion, lack of intimacy is the #1 reason women have affairs. And when they don't have affairs they either become numb or unhappy, as some part of them dies inside.
- What are you giving and not giving in your marriage?
- How deeply are you connecting and valuing your partner?
- How are you demonstrating love and when are you not?
- How open and honest are you being and when are you not?
If we were to look into the layers of your married life, will we find feelings of deep shared intimacy?
I help people bring that back into their lives.
You can read my book, The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle and learn some of the strategies that will work quickly to restore connection that leads to heightened intimacy.
What you fail to consider about the future of your relationship might be just the thing that causes it to fail.
Jeff Forte CSIC CME, author of The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle, founder of PEAK Results Coaching, is an Executive Coach specializing in marriage resolution and team dynamics. He holds certifications in Strategic Intervention and Marriage Education and is an expert in divorce prevention and urgent conflict resolution. Clients include Fortune 500 Executives, Business Professionals, Attorneys, Surgeons, Professional Athletes, Teams and Couples. He works with clients all over the world via Skype. For more information visit 90MinuteMarriageMiracle.com. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
