Dr. Laura:
I have been married for seven years. After listening to friends and family members tell me that my wifely and motherly duties and expectations were "abuse" served up by my husband, I felt overwhelmed. I started resenting my husband. I blamed him for everything, including my own mood for the day! After several years, and more prompting by my friends, I kicked him out of our house. After all, he was lazy and look at all the things he had the nerve to make me do - cooking, cleaning, taking care of his children, and never a single thank you. How
dare he!
Once we were separated, I started to see the real truth about my so-called friends. I was suddenly "dumb" or "stupid" for not putting kids in daycare, or I was crazy for wanting to spend an entire day with my kids. I was told I must be really depressed if I was content being home with nobody but my children. That's when I started to dump those friends from my life.
Then my mother-in-law insisted I read "
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands." Your entire book smacked me square in the face. How could I have forgotten to be my husband's girlfriend? How did I not see how ridiculously simple it was to make my husband happy? Luckily, my husband and I were able to get back together, and he can't stop commenting on the difference in me. He is now my priority, and I will never neglect him again. Thank you for changing my mindset, which has changed my marriage and my life.
Audra
