Dr. Laura:
I married my second husband 17 years ago. We had both been married and divorced and we each had children who were adults before we started dating. Before we met, I had been divorced for six years and was happy with my life. Since I was not needy to have a man in my life, I didn't lower my standards. When we were introduced by a mutual friend, I was still full of distrust and suspicion which I'd carried over from my previous marriage. But, as he would say to me, "I'm not your ex-husband" and he hung in there with me.
After dating for 18 months, we went to three months of premarital classes and also saw a counselor because everything was going so well, we couldn't believe it could be this good! Seventeen years later, we're more in love than ever, and I feel cherished. I also let him know how much I love him.
Earlier this year, I was told I needed a kidney transplant, and my husband was a perfect match. He told me he considers it an honor to be my donor.
A good marriage is a piece of heaven on earth. For your listeners, please be patient and don't lower your standards - there are good men out there and you will not be sorry if you take your time!
Priscilla
