I chose to homeschool my youngest and then added my oldest too. My expectation for them is to be the best at what they choose. My youngest completed school and entered the university at 10 years old. He is 16 and preparing his graduate school applications now.
My wife is an eternal pessimist, her expectations were low and affected our youngest. She realized she was wrong in her thinking, but it did have a negative effect. Unfortunately, this is something she has always done. I think that if we live vicariously through our children, problems will arrive and all too often those problems will be negative.
As my youngest entered the university, I chaperoned him on campus and remained there as an emotional anchor. As he matured, I withdrew myself from his decision making and meetings with his professors. I thought he had the maturity to handle it, and he did. Being an emotional anchor was an important job. It remains an important job. Until my final breath, I will be my sons' father, dad, and anchor. They are both my legacies. Both have a path before them and I actively encourage them with their endeavors. They will come and seek my counsel without prodding. When something is beyond my understanding, I will help them find the right answers. I will be gone from their lives one day and I am happy that they have chosen to do what they want to do. I will remain ready and always available to do what I can for them.
Wesley
