November 20, 2013
Live My Life Being His Mom

Hello Dr. Laura,

I have been listening to your show for almost twenty years now. In my teens, I listened to your advice with the hard exterior that foolish youth can provide. I had a baby when I was twenty years old and the loud crying of a newborn baby began to beat your advice into my mind and heart. My Dr. Laura lenses made it abundantly clear that his dad wasn’t going to live his life for either of us. So I had to put on my big girl panties and hang close to my parents and be my kid's mom.

I hear so many of your callers fight the idea of not dating until your kids are 18, but it really is one of the most sacred pieces of advice you give. My son is now 14, on full scholarship to one of the best schools in the country, full of personality, kindness and smarts. Not so long ago I pointed out to him that I purposefully don’t date. He was shocked. I made it clear to him I put my money where my mouth is and live my life in a way that allows for me to focus on being his mom. I have to work, but overtime is out of the question. My real job starts after I clock out. I have few girlfriends, but most of them have a close relationship with my son because at least for right now we are a package deal. He spends lots of time with his alpha granddad doing and fixing all sorts of things us girls have little interest in. Many days I look at him and can't believe this has gone so well, but I can easily say that it is all because I live my life as “my kid's mom”.

Please keep preaching, teaching and nagging because even when we stumble we can pick ourselves up, clean ourselves off, turn on the radio and remember to go take on the day. I thank you with all my heart.

Raymond's mom

Posted by Staff at 11:30 AM