April 18, 2016
No Excuses

Dr. Laura:

When my husband and I married 21 years ago, we both agreed which actions would cause an immediate end to the marriage, because they'd break our covenant.  They were criminality and cheating.  There would be no excuses, no second chances, no "I didn't know what I was doing" or "I made a mistake" (we both agreed that cheating isn't a "mistake" but a deliberate act). We also agreed that if we weren't pleased about how we were being treated by the other, we'd talk it out and rectify it.  We recognized that there might be times when one or both of us would be busy and forget to be each other's boyfriend or girlfriend, and when that happened, we'd let each other know in a kind way.  

Over the 21 years, he's called me on my "stuff" six times, and I've called him out three.  We figured this was a way to avoid a buildup of garbage that could morph into real manure!  So we've kept our barn clean and we're two happy partners in a good marriage.

I'm also proud to say that if he was in a room full of naked supermodels, he'd be looking only for me, and I'd do the same for him if the room were filled with hunky men!

Dory


Posted by Staff at 10:59 AM