Here are some things I learned too late... 

• We stopped honestly communicating about what we each needed from the marriage. 
• I found out through counseling we had not made an emotional connection so we could not weather the storms that arose. 
• I loved her, but she told me love was not enough.  She wanted and needed the little acts of sexual and non-sexual touch which I had stopped doing, as I took it for granted she would never leave me.  

I was so very, very wrong because the day came when she told me she was leaving me and walked out my front door. That day was December 27th, 2011 and I can't forget it or the pain and I doubt that I ever will. It was the day my life as I knew it ended for me. 

Now I don't really care about anyone or anything anymore. 

Ray