August 6, 2014
Growing a Pair


I want to thank you Dr. Laura for helping me grow a pair! I am the type of woman who will sit there and steam over something that bothers me. Then I will talk with my friends and complain about it rather than deal with the issue directly. I was growing into a bitter person who was always being used and never standing up for myself.

I heard your show when a woman called in, and you told her you do not like cowards. It hit me, I am a coward.

So, the issue next issue that came up was that my sister-in-law house sat for us while we were on vacation. She trashed our home, did not feed our cats, smoked hookah every night inside, made our house smell to high heaven, and once we returned from vacation she ended up just living with us without really asking us if she could. Normally, I would bitch to my husband about it for days on end to try and get him to do something about it, and it would cause so much anger and strife. Instead this time, I told him I would deal with the situation. I told her "Thank you so much for taking care of our home while we were on vacation, but I was hoping to have our home to ourselves once we returned. So last night, just to clarify, will be your last night at our home." She tried to guilt trip me by saying she would have to sleep in her car, but I pointed out we were not her last resort for a place to stay and she had other options. And I hoped everything worked out for her. I did this calmly without any yelling. I was expecting his family to hate me for kicking her out, and for our friends to see me as this mean person. Instead people understood, my sister-in-law holds nothing against me, and now we have the home to ourselves once again!

So I am working on growing a pair. This was just the first step, and I wanted to thank you for helping me take it.

Rhea

 

Posted by Staff at 10:59 AM