Hello!

I heard a young woman call in and the advice you gave her was so spot-on and clear I want every high school girl to learn from it. 

This 24-year-old woman had been dating the same man since she was 17.  She figured after 7 years, the next step was marriage. She brought up she had one boyfriend prior to the relationship; they had sex, and he dumped her. 

You immediately told her you questioned whether she loved the man she had been dating for 7 years; she thought she did, of course. But you pointed out she was still too immature to get married. You pointed out it was about her ego when she talked about "first love" and "he dumped me." I really don't think young women understand this. 

I got married at a "young" 21 years old and have been married to this man for 34 years. I learned the hard way I was way too young to get married. I admire my husband so much knowing that he endured this immature wife and stayed with me during all my crying and lack of self-confidence. We did date for five years prior to marriage and were good friends, which, I believe, sustained us through the hard times. I really think that young women in 2015 would divorce at the drop of a hat and I am thankful that I lived in a different time. 

Having said all that, how did you become so wise? It seems as if you have all the answers and can be so clear. Thank you for all you do to make family relationships better. 

Beth