Online dating worked for me and several friends for meeting our husbands because we are bold, no nonsense women. Here is what I did:

I never posted my photo. I didn't want men contacting me. I saw a guy on the website that was NEW. Many of the guys just troll for hook-ups. If they have been there more than a year, I would never contact them.

Give the guy a list of questions and expectations. If he doesn't have time to answer them well, he doesn't have time to be a boyfriend and future husband. Make the men jump through some hoops and DON'T PUT OUT quickly!

Beginning questions:

1. Do you want to get married in the future?


2. Do you want kids?


3. What religion were you brought up with and do you plan on attending church weekly, monthly, or for holidays? 


4. Why did you get divorced. What would your former wife say? 


5. What would you do if I told you I wouldn't have sex until we got married? 


6. If we got married, and I became a quadriplegic, what would you do? 


7. Are you a gladiator or a peace maker? 


8. How would you make sure I didn't get pregnant after we got married? 


9. Will you take an STD test and show me the results? 

My now husband answered all the questions. He had been married once before and ONLY had sex with his wife. He said he would wait. That was a big one for me. We chatted online for about 6 months before we met. He met my brother first, so my brother could find out if he was crazy. He then went one of to my sister's concerts and met the rest of my family. We met and waited until his daughter moved out at 19 years old.  We then got married, and now we teach in China together. 

If one uses online dating as a tool to weed out the crazy people, it can really work. You have to be strong and not put up with crap. It's great because you can be specific in what you are looking for. Love you!



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