July 21, 2015
Nuts in Cookies
Dr. Laura--
It all began with my stay-at-home mom listening to you while she baked, cooked, and rode in the car. Admittedly as a young teen, I would complain 'Ugh!! Dr. Laura AGAIN?!?' But now, I'm grateful for the years I spent listening to you.
As I listen daily to your show and podcast I'm often reminded of how blessed I am to have the parents and upbringing I had. My parents have been married almost 40 years and love each other more today than they did yesterday.
When Mom would bake cookies, brownies, etc. she would always bake them with nuts! Being a bratty teen, I would always say, "Mom! I don't like nuts in my cookies!" And being the outstanding wife she was she would simply smile and say, "Your dad likes nuts in his cookies. It's the little things."
"Nuts in cookies" has become a metaphor for me in my life. My parents taught that love is something you DO. Love is a verb. I heard that phrase so often growing up and it's something I never tire of hearing. My husband and I often joke about 'nuts in cookies'. He likes little notes and cards. He even likes to kiss me even when I have lip-gloss on and don't want to get it on him. He says, "Babe! It's a nuts in cookies thing. I like it when you get lip-gloss on me." So I kiss him -- a lot.
I write this to you, Dr Laura, as an ode. An ode to my parents and to you. "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" has further substantiated my beliefs in how to keep a marriage HAPPY! I'm most definitely my husband's girlfriend and he is indeed my sexy boyfriend. He tells me often how grateful he is for me. How much he loves coming home to a clean house and a hot meal and later a hot wife! He chases me around the kitchen trying to steal a kiss or a squeeze on the tush. He would without a doubt 'swim through shark infested waters just to bring me a lemonade'. And I for him. So I write you this, not to brag, but to hopefully help others believe that it can be done. A happy man and marriage is NOT impossible.
Taped up to our mirror in our bathroom are two notes. One that says "nuts in cookies" as a reminder to just do the little things your spouse likes and the other note is "What can I do today to make him/her feel special?" Both of those things taught by my amazing parents and you, Dr Laura.
Your forever grateful listener,
Samantha
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