Hi Dr. Laura:

When I was newly married, I found a wet towel on the bathroom floor that my husband had left there.  I got annoyed....again because this was a pattern with him.  Despite the fact that the towel rack was literally inches behind him, he always left the towel on the floor and I was tired of picking up after him.  
I was about to go tell him off, but I heard your voice in my head saying "is this the hill you choose to die on?" and "ask yourself how you would feel if he were no longer around to leave his socks (or in this case the towel) on the floor."  So I picked up the towel and put it on the rack.  I left the bathroom and threw my arms around my husband's neck instead and said: "Honey, you smell so amazing right after your shower."  I dragged him to the bedroom and rocked his world.

He's the best husband I could ask for and is a great father to our bright and happy two-year-old girl.  Fighting over a towel would have just made me a bitch and hurt our marriage.  It wasn't worth it.  We've been married for five years now.  I still have to pick up the towel, but I couldn't be happier.  I had poor examples for how to be a good mother and a good wife until I started listening to you.  You've taught me how to be both!  

Sally