Dear Dr Laura,

I have been listening for years after my husband told me about you. I thought I was doing everything right: holding our family together, doing all the work, and was the only one raising our children. I stayed at home and did it all.  I felt my husband was so mean and selfish to put all of this on my shoulders.

After you came out with your book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" I bought it and read it. I realized then it was because of my husband being such a hard worker I was able to stay home with my 6 children. I finally realized I needed to tell my husband just that. I couldn't believe how hard it was for me to say it. I started to tell him thanks and I began to cry uncontrollably. Finally I got hold of myself and told him thanks for working so hard so I could stay home with our children. I told him I was sorry he couldn't do all the things I was able to do with our children because he was working two jobs. I had such a full and wonderful life with our children and I wanted to thank him for providing for us and I was sorry for never telling him thanks.

Thank you, Dr. Laura, for making me see the light. Now instead of believing it was all ME raising our children, I now see it was a team and how important HE was in being the provider. I tell him thanks all the time and that our children turned out so well because we make a good team. He feels bad for missing out on so much because he was working, but I always tell him thanks for that.

He is semi-retired, and that now we have grandchildren, we get to do a ton of things with them.  I continue to tell him what a good grandfather and father he is. I told him he can have fun with the grandkids and he does!

Thanks so much for all you do, Dr. Laura

Rosanne