Dr. Laura,

It always seems that whatever I seem to be struggling with at the time you have a show about it.

I am a 38-year-old happily-married woman with 9 and 5-year-old boys who stays home to raise them, but most of the time still feels like a little girl. As I was growing up I had the magic number of 25 in my head for some reason that I would suddenly "become and adult". Well, that didn't happen. I still felt like I was 16. Then 30 rolled around....still felt and even sometimes acted like I was 16. 35 came about.....a little bit better, but still not there. Two weeks ago after a night of drinking way too much with friends and upsetting some people because of it, I had an epiphany. I think I knew it all along, but didn't want to admit it. Becoming an adult isn't something that HAPPENS to us, it is a CHOICE we make. I need to choose to stop playing the victim, stop listening to my whiny feelings, start ACTING and stop REACTING. I always seem to be cleaning up my messes and playing catch up. It's time to not let the messes happen in the first place. Choosing to be an adult means tough choices, smart choices and selfless choices. It also means telling your "demons" to shut the hell up finally!! It's time for me to take charge and stop letting things just "happen".

I would never have come to this realization without you. Thank you Dr. Laura...my husband and children thank you too.

Sincerely,

Regan