Comparing yourself to others.  We each have special talents and blessings. When my son was growing up, I handled the math through algebra, but then I turned it over to Dad because I never met an equilateral triangle that I liked (except when setting up balls to play pool). Geometry was not my thing. You’re good at what you’re good at, and you’re not good at other things. But so what? You have to be OK with that.

Holding on to the past. There’s ugly and disappointing crap in everybody’s past. You can learn from it, but you can’t dwell there. Forgive yourself and let it go.

Holding grudges. We have all had people in our lives who have intentionally screwed us over. You don’t have to forgive them, but you can’t walk around festering in it. You have to get on with the pieces of your life that you do have.

Not taking care of yourself. I have gotten a manicure every week of my entire adult life because when I look down at my nails, I feel good. Getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising, and taking showers simply makes you feel better and happier. 

Trying to fit in where you don’t (or even want to) fit in.  Fitting in may make you feel happy in the short term, but in the long run, you’re going to be disgusted with yourself because of the compromises you have made.

Taking on jobs that you hate. When you hate what you’re doing, you don’t perform well and you’re not happy. Now, there are times when you have to do whatever it takes just to survive, but that’s different. In that case, you should be proud of yourself for doing what you have to do in order to survive and take care of your family.

Multitasking. Multitasking never made anybody happy. I know many of you think it means you have increased intelligence, but by multitasking, you actually put less IQ into each thing than if you did one thing at a time.

Loneliness. Loneliness is oftentimes voluntary because it means you’re not opening your heart, arms, or home to friends. Good friends are a godsend no matter what’s going on in your life.

Complaining. Some people can look at a beautiful lawn and get obsessed with a piece of crabgrass. It’s easy to have complaints, but spending your time complaining doesn’t get you anywhere.