April 23, 2014
Our Lives Matter to Others

Hello Dr. Laura,
 
This is in response to your blog: Being There for a Sick Friend or Family Member
 
Two years ago, I found out my cousin had cervical cancer; she was only 18 months older and we had always been close. She was at all the major events of my life. She was always a very private person.  I cannot say I knew many details of her life as she didn't share much. During her illness, the circle of those who were allowed to care for her was small. She also didn't want many visitors. I always let it be known that I was only a phone call away. One afternoon, I got a text from her sister that she was in the hospital and would I come visit?  "Of course", was my answer! I had no idea what I would be walking into or why she was in the hospital this time, but we had the best evening reminiscing and laughing. It's a very special memory to have now. A few days later, she was home and I visited her again.
 
Three days later she was back in the hospital, it didn't look good, and everyone was flying in. I picked up her mom and took her straight to the hospital. Unfortunately, my cousin didn't wake up after surgery.  And I was there as they turned off the machines. I felt so privileged that she finally let me be there to support her and her family as she left us.
 
I miss her very much and am happy to have the memories and not wondering if I could have done more.
 
Lorrie




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