October 16, 2018
Past Regrets

Hello Dr. Laura:

I've been listening to you for a few years, but not early enough to save myself from a drastic mistake.  Regretfully, I am proof that divorce is devastating to one's children, but I smugly thought my ex-husband and I did it the right way and were the exception to the rule.

My husband and I divorced when our kids were young.  We both remarried within a few years.  Our divorce was amicable, and we agreed never to put our kids in the middle of any disagreement.  We did not speak poorly of the other nor did we use the kids as leverage in arguments.  We thought we had it all worked out - no drama, so no problems, right? WRONG.

Although everything seemed to be going smoothly, I had a nagging in my heart that all was not okay.  Our kids are young adults now, but I literally laid out a timeline of all that transpired in my daughter's younger years.  The concentration of life-altering events I had cast on her from ages 6 to 8 were monumental.  She's in counseling for a host of issues that can be clearly attributed to the divorce, but I realize now that I caused her that trauma.  I adore her to pieces, but I pulled the rug out from under her.  So for all your listeners who think they're the exception to the divorce rule, the remarriage rule or the custody rule, I can tell them they are NOT the exception.  You WILL cause life-long problems for your kids.  I only wish I had been listening to you back then.

One Sad Mom



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