May 18, 2016
Looking In All The Wrong Places For Prince Charming



My online dating profile used to be carefully composed with a clever headline that perfectly matched my flirty profile picture.  My description listed all the "wow" factors I could think of while briskly skipping over the less desirable ones (including that I was living paycheck to paycheck, unable to keep a job past the probation period, or that I had a past with drugs and depression which left me with an STD).  

No - I was in a hurry, hounded by the fear of getting older and still being single.  So from age 37 - 43, I juggled THREE online dating services at the same time.  I was determined!  But I finally realized that meeting people this way was very artificial.  Most of them (myself included) were liars.  We were fake, insecure hopefuls with voids to fill.  It's a playground for con artists, ex-cons, criminals and liars.  And they are not unattractive.  Some of the most dangerous situations from online dates I found myself in were with good looking guys in my 30-45 age range.  In the seven years I did this, I never got a prince.  I got frogs who had insatiable appetites for sexting and getting between the sheets!

Looking back, I'm horrified at the risks I took just to curb my loneliness.  Internet dating is like pesticides on fruit - you can't see the artificial chemicals even though you know they're there.  Everything looks good, and hey, you want peaches NOW!  You choose the pesticide-riddled peach because it's better than nothing.  

I finally decided to be celibate.  It's been over three years, and the next time I go on a date, it will be with someone I met "organically."  I've come to realize I'm really an old-fashioned girl after all.

Mattie





Posted by Staff at 10:59 AM