Dr. Laura, 

My parents divorced around the time I was in seventh grade. I don't remember an actual date because my dad traveled a lot. I have four siblings, and honestly we were glad that they divorced. My parents fought a lot. They were very unpleasant: lots of screaming, smashed plates, etc. This also caused a lot of fighting between us children as we tried to decide what side we were on. 

As I've reflected on this I believe that my mother was the main cause of their crummy marriage. She was, and still is, a bit of a man hater. I think their divorce was devastating to my dad, and they did remarry not long after the divorce. Everyone but the youngest child was disappointed that they decided to remarry. The fighting continued. My mom also commented to me once that she was "better off" when they were divorced. If a couple can't keep it together and treat kindly perhaps divorce is the best option. At least when my parents were divorced we were able to do a lot of fun things with our dad. When they were together my mother always tried to stifle these types of outings. 

I discovered you not long after my husband and I married and I believe it kept me from becoming like my mother. I married a great man, we have four children, and we'll be celebrating our tenth anniversary soon. Keep up the good fight Dr. Laura! 

Candiss