Hello Dr. Laura, 

I had the sweetest, most loving mom on the face of the earth. She was the most gracious lady and even more gracious when she was dying. My mom was diagnosed with 2 brain tumors in Dec. 2005. During the next 17 months, she lived with me, my husband and the kids we were in the process of adopting. She rebounded somewhat and was able to function on a slower pace. We spent her last 17 months making wonderful memories in spite of her grim prognosis, making sure laugh daily. My kids learned lessons that could never be taught in school. 

In March 2007, she was given the devastating news that her brain tumors had multiplied to 8. While I was trying to breathe, she calmly asked the doctor what kind of death she would have. Always the mom and grandma, she wanted to know if anything traumatic would happen to her that would negatively impact my kids.

I don't remember much of the sad times taking care of my mom, but I sure do remember the fun times and wonderful conversations we had during those last 17 months. Those memories are what get me through the times when I miss her so much that I have a hard time breathing. Laugh, cry, joke around, dream, cherish, and love every experience. Your family and friends' final days will be richer for it. 

Marian