Hi, Dr. Laura,

I asked a guy who wanted to be "my man" if he would swim through shark infested waters to bring me a lemonade. He said he would NOT do something so foolish to endanger his life. I hope you know he was checked off my list right away.

Once I let him know of my dis-interest in him, he met a woman and married her within two months. I think he is a foolish man, but I think more importantly, she is a foolish woman. She did not get to know him to see if he had character, if he was truly loving, sacrificial, brave and a man of honor. I hear they are terribly happy, which is good as this is his third marriage.

I would not be happy now if I had chosen him. Thanks for making me a smarter woman than I might otherwise have been. I am NOT a feminist and want a man of principle and am willing to wait for him... Keep up the good work!!!

Ruth