January 18, 2019
Learning Lessons

Dear Dr. Laura:

I found you again about a year ago.  I was seeking an attitude adjustment because my marriage of 21 years was not as strong as it could be.  We have five kids and have been married since our mid-20s.  My wife is more intense than I am - I'm more laid back - but I recognize that I am someone who broods as well.  Her wonderful, daily affection had waned, and she was stressed, having gone back to work part-time for the first time since we got married.  I realized that I was feeling sorry for myself.  Our love life had dwindled too.  

Here's what I've done after learning a lot from that experience.  Whenever I feel like I've been snubbed by my wife, I view that as a challenge, rather than a slight.  I let her know through my actions (not my words) that I desire her, support her, and will take care of her.  In essence, I try to win her heart anew each and every day.  This has now become a daily habit rather than just a tactic to get her clothes off.  I've learned to focus on what I can do daily to make her feel special.  It's been a wonderful challenge and an enhancement to our marriage, and our intense lovemaking is back too.

Jay



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