Dear Dr. Laura,

My husband died 12 years ago, while playing tennis. I was 58. Your recent comments on having friends to help us through difficult times were so true. I have been collecting friends these past 12 years. I just made a list of all of the friends that I can call on to have coffee with; the list was over 20.

My first thought was, "It takes 20 friends to fill the void left by one wonderful husband". That is the truth and the reality...we just have to go with it. Every day I have a plan and some days I have two. I could go on and on about this journey. It has been lonely and sad, but I continually count my blessings. Losing the love of your life is an emotional wound that never totally heals.

The advice I give to women I meet who find themselves alone due to death or divorce is: "One day at a time, one step at a time".

Every day is a gift so I find something to be thankful for and enjoy every day and I write it down!!!! Thank you for what you do to help us, your faithful listeners.

Blessings,

Jane



How do you move forward when you're hurting? Share your tips with us, by signing up for the FREE Dr. Laura Family and send an email here.