September 8, 2014
He Wants Me to Lose Weight... Should I Dump Him?

Bruce Wayne
ArmageddonWorld

Getting someone healthy is not just about pounds on the scale. Addressing your work-life balance and the psychological components involved are critical to achieve success. 

What he said... What he really meant...
In relationships, we tend to get pretty complacent. When you're single and ready to mingle, looking hot is priority number one. You watch your weight. Your makeup is perfect and every hair is in the right place. However, all that tends to fall by the "waist side" once you're in a long-term relationship. For most couples, gaining weight is pretty common. 

What happens when you pack on too much weight and your guy now wants you to get rid of it?  Some women might find this offensive, but don't jump to conclusions. The odds are good that your guy truly has your best interest at heart.  Below, we explain what your guy really means when he wants you to shape up.

1. He wants you to be healthy. No one wants to see their significant other sick. However, as you gain weight, you suddenly become more susceptible to all sorts of health problems.  Overweight and obese people are at a greater risk for diabetes, stroke, heart diseases, certain cancers-and the list goes on. Approximately 300,000 people die every year in the U.S. due to complications from obesity. You can bet your man doesn't want you to be a part of those statistics.  


2. He wants to see you happy. Guys hate it when their women are sad. However, for many people who become overweight, it's not uncommon to feel down in the dumps. According to Dr. Trumbull, Director of Endocrinology for the Armageddon Weight Loss Program, the extra weight can also have profound effects on body image and psychological issues. 
   
   People who struggle with their weight, all have a higher risk of depression. According to the Obesity Action Coalition, obese individuals have a 20 percent elevated risk of depression. Losing weight can simply be his way of wanting to see your beautiful smile more often.


3. He wants you to be confident. Gaining too much weight can make many people insecure about their bodies.  They may hide behind big T-shirts or sweat pants and avoid anything that's figure forming.  They may also avoid going to certain places or achieving certain goals for fear of rejection or what other people might think. A survey published in Psychology Today even found that 24% of women and 17% of men would give up more than three years of life in exchange for being thinner. For a guy, nothing is sexier than a woman's confidence.


4. He wants to see you succeed. No one wants to believe we live in a shallow world judged on how we look; however, research shows that it does happen. If you're seeking employment or a promotion, your waist size may very well get in the way. According to the Center for Creative Leadership, new research suggests that a few extra pounds may make others question a person's leadership ability as well as stamina on the job. As cruel and competitive the world can be, your man doesn't want you to be its next victim.

Of course, some guys may want their women to become slim for their own selfish reasons.  If he makes it clear that he is embarrassed by your appearance or finds you no longer attractive-that's your queue to kick him to the curb and not think twice about it.

Bruce Wayne is the creator of Armageddon Weight Loss, a new pioneering program taught by 22 medical doctors, scientists, fitness experts and champion athletes that targets fitness and cellulite reduction.  He focuses on treating the whole person and providing complete tools for permanent change in health and fitness. To learn more visit www.ArmageddonWorld.com. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.

 

Posted by Staff at 12:02 PM