November 7, 2013
Working vs. Stay-at-Home Mommy Wars I am just going to come out and say it, once and for all, "I DO NOT WANT A JOB!" I do not have one, want one, or plan to get one. It is not because I am lazy, sure I have lazy days, just like everyone else, but by nature I am not a lazy person. No more of this "once the kids are in school…" lie I say to make it more comfortable when I am talking to a "working mom". Nope; not even then do I want a "job". I have a job; in fact I have multiple "jobs" I just don’t get a lunch break or paycheck. I am a wife, cook, friend, boo-boo kisser, Laundromat, chauffeur etc… We have all heard it before, but it is true I am all of those things. But most importantly I am my kid’s mom Thank you Dr. Laura! And I am my husband’s wife. Just because my kids will be in school full time someday doesn’t mean that they will need me any less. They will still need me at 9 years old when someone teases them for wearing the wrong brand of shoes, at 13 when someone offers them drugs, at 16 when their heart is broken in pieces by their first love. The older they get the harder their life choices become and making the right choice becomes that much more important. My children will still need me. And I will be there waiting by the door when they get home. My husband needs me. He needs me to make his lunch, to have the coffee ready in the morning, to kiss him good bye and to support him in every way as he supports us. He needs me to be refreshed and to make him feel needed as a man. Yes, that is my JOB! I am a wife and a mother. To some of you all these things may seem silly, mediocre, or old fashioned, but to me it is my life; a life I have chosen, a life we have chosen, a life I would not change!!! I don't want to have a "job" and have to choose which boo-boos I will be there to kiss and make better. I do not want to choose which soccer practice I make it to, or which field trip I will chaperone. I want to be there for it all! I am my kid’s mom for always. They will not always need me waiting by the door, but until the day when they give me back their key, I will be there waiting. Waiting to help them with anything and everything they need and hopefully teaching them to do the same for their children someday. When the time comes for me to start the next chapter of my life, I will still be my husband’s wife and my kid’s mom, and my grandchildren’s Grandma. All of which I want to be. I am a woman and that is my job. I am proud to say that! I do not need to justify, explain, feel guilty or feel less than because of this. I embrace being a woman and the natural role I have in my family because of it. I am blessed to have such an amazing life. I am blessed to have a husband who feels the same way. I am my kid’s mom, and my husband’s wife, and I do not want just a job. Stephanie Posted by Staff at 11:34 AM |