Hi Dr Laura,

I want to thank you for your book "Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives." I have reread the Stupid Chivalry chapter over and over again, along with the whole book. I was in a relationship with a woman who had issues due to past emotional abuse. I tried to help her, but had to learn to put aside my stupid chivalry to understand that she would not change. When it came to emotional and physical abuse being put on me by her, I had to put my foot down and make a decision. I did and left. I should have seen the warning signs, and they are now clearer, but at the time, stupid chivalry got in the way.

I could say a lot more but I'm sure you get a lot of these letters. I have learned a few things, and two that come up right now: 1) there are a lot of women I can fall in love with, but I have to choose the one who is right for me; I need to be more choosey in my choices, and 2) while looks attract a man at first, it is the mind of the woman (who she is inside) that is key.

Thank you, Please keep up the good work. I'm a member of your site and I enjoy it!!

Thank you,

Rolf