I appreciate the person who said they were disgusted with selfish women. Sadly, both husband and wife can be selfish. I think normally a husband wants to please his wife sexually. If he knows how to stir her interest he will do it. If the wife is not pleased, it makes a husband feel that he is a failure. It can make him fearful that he is not a man and if he is not pleasing her she may look elsewhere. A man wants his wife to be happy and satisfied. If she is not, he is not.

Sex goes deeper for men than simply having as orgasm. No man likes having sex with a limp dishrag. If he sees his wife is not being pleased, he comes away from sex with a feeling of disgust and will eventually reject sex with his wife altogether and the danger sets in of being lured elsewhere leaving the wife wondering why he became unfaithful.

My pastor once said, "A man who is satisfied at home doesn't look elsewhere". Another saying I heard was "A man does not run away from happiness." There are times when a man needs to be understood. There are some problems that are hard to deal with, particularly when the wife is under psychiatric care. I understand that some of those medications depress sexual desire. But, that is another matter. I love to buy my wife "just because" flowers. I like to take her out to eat and open her car door. In other words, I like to see her happy. But, a woman who is unresponsive will find those things drying up.

Ronald