July 30, 2015
There's a Reason It's Hard to Leave Your Child


Dear Dr. Laura, 

Two months ago, my supervisor's wife had a baby. Last week, she stopped by the office with the new baby, and mentioned how much she was dreading coming back to work. Long story short, they don't believe they can "afford" for her to stay home. I guess the day care bill seems more rational. 

Yesterday was her first day back and on her social media page, all her friends and family were encouraging her that she was doing the right thing, how it will get better with time, and how it will make those few hours she gets to see HER daughter that much more special. The comments made me sick to my stomach. Why on earth would anyone encourage a mother to leave her 2-month-old with strangers for 8+ hours a day? 

I discussed this with my husband and said the reason she was upset is because she knows she's doing the wrong thing. And all her "friends" who tell her it gets better with time, is like the expression, "tell a lie often enough and it becomes truth." The longer these women tell themselves that working is what's BEST for their child, rather than sacrificing frivolous expenses, a lifestyle or their career because they brought a human being into the world, the easier the lie becomes the truth. There is a reason it's so hard to leave your children, it's a built-in sense telling you your BABY needs YOU! Why do people have children, just to turn around and let someone else raise them? Children are NOT accessories to your life! I'm so glad I chose wisely and have a husband who wholeheartedly agrees that if and when we have kids, one of us will always be home with OUR children. If I need to work it will be from home, or on days my husband will be home. We are our imaginary children's parents. 

Michaela


Posted by Staff at 10:59 AM