Hello Dr. Laura,

I spoke with you just over a year ago to get advice on how to cope with the loss of my mother who had just passed away from cancer.  My father needed help too as she was the love of his life. They were married 60 years and he called her "My World". You gave me the analogy of comparing the pain and grief to a large wave in the ocean, approaching and overcoming me, but allowing it to finally subside. You also explained for each day of suffering in grief is another day of reassurance of how wonderful of a person she was. 

I kept those thoughts in mind throughout the first year which was extremely tough especially around the holidays, on her birthday and the 1 year anniversary of her passing. Believe it or not, the grief wave has started to subside, slowly. Now don't get me wrong, I think about her every day and still miss her terribly, but it's not as painful. My father is healing as well. He visits her almost daily and brings her flowers weekly.  He told me, "It's something I want to do". 

Thank you, Dr. Laura, for putting things in perspective for me during that horrific time. You have no idea how much I appreciate your words of wisdom and caring. 

John